Post-Holiday Confessions From A Decorator

For the entire month of December – in fact, from Thanksgiving on I spent my time on both the Blog and my Facebook Fanpage writing about Christmas Traditions (mine and other guest authors), giving “Helpful Holiday Hints” and showcasing beautiful examples of holiday décor.  Who would ever guess that I, a decorator, a believer in all things magical for Christmas time and one who professes to know and expect décor detail would not decorate, bake, send cards or do anything traditional for the holidays?  (Well, I did do Advent gifts though.) Seriously – even I wonder at this all.  My entire life I have expressed the importance of traditions – particularly holiday traditions.  I even sing the song, “Let it snow! Let it snow! Let it snow!” throughout the year unaware that I am even doing it.  Christmas and all its pageantry means that much to me.

Because of some necessary travel to Charlotte, NC next week and all it entails, travel there for the holidays was just flat not an option.  So, there went being with my kids, grandchildren and God’s Littlest Angel.  That’s one tradition down the tubes.  Decorating for Christmas?  I must confess I decided not to do that either.  I left my entire collection of Nutcrackers, my collection of Santa’s and all my sentimental Christmas tree ornaments in their boxes in the basement.   All I did was put a simple wreath on the front door and a Menorah  (yes, my darling David is Jewish) on the antique side table in our kitchen.

Front door wreath

Our front door décor

Why did I ignore all the trappings of Christmas this year?   Not even listen to any Christmas music either at home or in my car?  Funny thing – in mentally and emotionally preparing for next week I knew I needed to be still.  I needed to be quiet.  I needed no distractions.  So I decided not to indulge in any part of the traditional preparations for Christmas and instead use the time to reflect on the true meaning of the season.

Joy of all joys, I absolutely, positively celebrated Christmas and what it truly means.

I focused on PEACE.  PEACE for myself and PEACE for people everywhere.

Now don’t get me wrong.  The Friday before Christmas Eve I embarked on a very long morning of sitting on my pity pot.  It didn’t help to talk to my sister-in-law, Becky and hear her excitement at this being the first year in a long while that all three of her boys, wives, fiancés and their dogs would be home for the holiday.  Or hearing my sister, Mary Ann shout with glee on the phone that every single Christmas present was wrapped and ready and family was already arriving to start the holiday weekend.  Or hearing that God’s Littlest Angel was walking and here I was in Chicago missing it all.  Or, most of all, that my very own baby, my youngest son, Jimmy had become engaged to a wonderful woman (Lailuma) and I wouldn’t get to celebrate quite yet with them live and in person.  Text pictures of her engagement ring didn’t do the ring justice I’m sure!  Ugh… the pity pot sure got worn out that morning!

Second night of Hanukkah

Second night of Hanukkah

I tired of sitting on the pity pot though.  So, I picked myself up, chilled a bottle of Veuve Cliequot for the evening and did what my heart, mind and body always craves – I went to nature.  While walking in nature I reflected on the real side of things.   The real side was this – I realized that I was thankful to have had the wherewithal to use the entire month of December for total quiet and stillness.  With so much free time on my hands not devoted to the hustle-bustle of Christmas preparations, I gained so much insight.  I want to share with you what I pondered, reflected on and learned over this last holiday season I chose to celebrate without all the glitter.  And in the words of what many hosts say when announcing the winner on TV Shows like X Factor; I list the lessons learned and/or reflected on “in no particular order”:

  • Like Dorothy in The Wizard Of Oz I have found that HOME has been here for me all along.  I don’t have to be “home” in Charlotte with my kids and grandkids to have them at home in my heart.  My heart home is always there ready to embrace them unconditionally wherever I be, wherever they be.
  • I can really focus on the essence of Christmas without all the fluff, commercialism and festivities and wonder of wonders; it is awesome to do this.
  • In loving and living with a Jewish man I can appreciate that mankind benefits most with an attitude of inclusivity and not exclusivity.
  • The true meaning of the Christmas season is PEACE.  No true peace can come without forgiveness of oneself, of others and of humanity as well.
  • As much as I love music and in particular, Christmas music – Silence is Golden for it is in the moments of silence that we hear what we really, truly need to hear.
  • I have learned on a whole new level what it means to live simply.
  • Traditions won’t go away if you choose not to observe them on occasion.
  • Memories never fade.
  • Feeling lonely is a choice.
  • Life is to be lived actively loving oneself, others and all mankind.
  • PEACE requires action.
  • Actions speak louder than words.
  • The truth, ohhhh the sweet, wonderful truth will absolutely, positively set you free.

Happy New Year everyone!  May 2012 bring you wisdom.  Oh, and may it also bring you the courage to use it!

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About Jamie Balzer

Jamie has worked in the field of interior decorating for over 10 years and has owned B&A Interiors, LLC for almost as long. Partnered with her daughter, Sammi Blake, Jamie has been honored to work in homes and businesses across the country. Knowledge and experience is but part of what she has to offer. As a young girl, Jamie intuitively understood that the placement of things, the color of things, and the arrangement of things evoke certain feelings. Working together with this knowledge, experience and intuition Jamie has answered the call to her life’s purpose- teaching the spiritual truth of what she believes- “Everything begins in the home”. As a branch of B&A Interiors, LLC, Living In Perfect Harmony emerged to teach her philosophy. Jamie believes, “if you live peacefully and beautifully at home, you are well, your family is well and that helps to make the world a better place”. Jamie's most passionate role is as a mother and grandmother. Jamie currently lives and works in the Chicago area but also continues her business in Charlotte, NC as both a decorator and a homespace coach. She is certified in Reiki Therapy which she believes broadens her success as a homespace coach. Jamie is available for private consultations, lectures and seminars.

15 thoughts on “Post-Holiday Confessions From A Decorator

  1. Jamie, you are blessed with a beautiful heart. I hope your 2012 is wonderful and prosperous for all your family and many blessings to come.
    Joy Stark

    • Thank you so much Joy for your kind words. I am sorry it has taken me so long to respond to your comment. I have been traveling and dealing with heavy duty stuff. Suffice it to say that “Stella’s got her groove back”. (That’s me in case you don’t know!!!) Keep reading – more posts to come. Blessings to you.

    • So glad you love this one. The best always comes from our hearts for sure. And you are so right- if we only knew then what we know now – what a wonderful world this would be. However,I still plan to do my part to make it a wonderful world by living in perfect harmony! Love to you!

  2. Dear Sis, you said it so well and showed us a blessed, nice holiday does not require all the material trappings. My spouse would love to have such a Christmas. Enjoy not having to take down/pack up decorations. See you soon.

    • Well, all I can say is that looking back on the holiday from afar now, I really, really celebrated it in the very best way I possibly could. Perhaps I will call you next December and remind you to enjoy more and do less. And, you are the dear sister for holding me up during the long hard week last week. I am forever grateful for the family I have. What great support you all give me!

  3. So true……different Christmas for me too…..not having Al and not having my kids and grandchildren . Also dealing with having to be without Tom so soon…..a lot of reflection. So so different for both of us. Love u. Must talk soon. Glad to home but a trip I will never forget. A lot of tears were shed, but I did feel the real meaning of Christmas…..love and faith. Susie

    • I know well that this was a difficult Christmas for you – the first without Big Al. You made it though and it is one more shining example of the powerful force you are. Keep modeling to others who you are – a woman who knows herself. Oh, and keep reading dear friend…

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  5. Introduced your parents, maid/honor in their wedding.
    Bee is my Godchild. She gave me your address, but I have lost contact with her. She e-mailed a photo of Bobby with you and maybe Craig. Are you the twins?
    Main concern —- How is your mother? At 87 I’m fine and thankful. Ann

    • I was actually thinking about you the other day so, the Universe has brought you to me through my Blog. How wonderful. Your comment on a post of my Blog several months ago still makes me smile. You gave to me and all my family such insight into our mother and father. I will forever be grateful to you for that. Yes, I am “one of the twins”. Craig, my twin was named for you I think?!? And, funny how life is. When this comment came through today on my computer screen, I was actually sitting in front of my computer on the phone with my dear sister, Bee (your Godchild). I saw your name pop up and wanted to read your comment alone before I told Bee about it. I guess I wanted to savor the moment of getting a comment as each one that someone writes to me truly honors me! I will have to let her know that you have asked about Mom. Mom is doing well. She lives in an Assisted – Living Facility and really likes her digs. But I have to confess, with her Alzheimer’s she doesn’t really understand where she lives. At times she thinks she is either in Portsmouth or McLean,VA. Regardless, she has truly taught me some lessons in life at this stage of her life. With her disease, she lives completely in the moment. I mean that literally. She cannot remember the moment before or the moment after so her life revolves around the present moment. Oh, if we could all look at life in this way what a different world we would live in! I will send you some pictures of her and my family in an email to you. By the way, at 87 I think that you might hold the honor of being my “oldest” reader. All I can say is that I thank you from my heart for taking the time to read my words and then to write to me. You hold a special place in all of the Balzer children’s hearts for your love and friendship with regard to our mom. Have a wonderful day!

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