For years I habitually dreamed of redecorating my home at 2831 Giverny Drive and by the way, I’m talking about even long after I moved on to another place. Some dreams were about putting up new window treatments, others about rearranging furniture in the different rooms and still others focused on redoing the landscaping in my yard. My dreams, teeming with brilliant colors and detail on occasion had to do with smells in my house and actual events like entertaining – all with a new décor as the backdrop of course. These dreams came almost every single night and invariably left me fraught with anxiety upon waking each morning. You see, night after night these dreams reminded me each morning that my house was out of kilter. Why you wonder? It’s because these dreams began soon after my marriage split up and believe you me they plagued me for years. What I was “working” on in my dream state was clearly symbolic of the work I was doing on my interior self. Feverishly each night as I slept I was trying to work through a renovation of my house in order to get back on track and feel balanced and well. Funny thing though – a dear friend and counselor I know, Joyce Hennessy and I have had conversations about having dreams about houses. She said that she has had many clients going through traumatic events such as divorce that have recurring dreams of cleaning their houses over and over again. (Symbolic for cleaning up the mess or messes in life.) But, my nightly dreams of redecorating were new to her. Which obviously means that the “redecorating” in my dreams had other meaning- like maybe my home décor needed changing for other psychological reasons?!?
I am happy to say that for the last two or three years I have been free of these dreams. I no longer have a single itty-bitty dream of 2831 Giverny Drive and hallelujah, what a blessing. But, I had a conversation the other day with someone that brought all this back to me. One of our projects for B&A Interiors was recently selected for a magazine article and so the writer interviewed me about my design philosophy. I found myself explaining the principles of what I call “Psychology of the Home” and how important it is to create space for yourself that is not only peaceful and beautiful but is also the outward expression of who you are. After I got off the phone it hit me like a ton of bricks. That’s really what I was doing in my dreams. In my dreams I was desperately trying to tell my psyche that my house didn’t match who I was and that it needed to become the true outward expression of myself.
Mind you, within a few days of becoming separated I began to change things in my house. For example, as I mentioned in an earlier post, Our Homes Must Express Our True Essence, I had the landscapers remove a huge River Birch that was overtaking the front of my house completely obscuring the view outside. Simply removing that tree changed the look of my house and said, “Hello world, here I am”. Talk about liberating! But for the most part it took a few years for me to fully express myself in my sanctuary and feel balanced through and through. Along the way, I began to understand part of what I was doing in my clients’ homes. I realized I was harmonizing their space with their personalities much like I did my own house. Really, really cool!
Which takes me back to my interview with the writer of the magazine article. I gave her some of the back-story of my clients, Katie and Seth, two young and very busy professionals who had a desire to create a beautiful space to live in that reflected who they are. While talking to her I told her how happy they are now with their newly rehabbed uptown condo and that they can’t wait to come home to it every night after work.
Living Beautifully + Living Peacefully = Living Well
I happen to believe there are no coincidences in life. This means that the dreams that plagued me for years were meant to teach me something about myself. And, to take it a step further, I believe that the wisdom I gleaned from the dreams was to be shared with others in their own personal spaces. That’s why I came up with the model I call “Homespace Coaching”. Think of it as a formula for successful wellness. Living beautifully (through choosing décor to fit your unique personality) plus living peacefully (through simple changes in how you live in your space) equals living well.
I live an incredibly blissful life. I am well and whole. I believe that my road to wellness truly began when I realized that everything begins in the home. Sure, all the other things I do for myself like exercise, meditating and prayer enhance my life. But the truth is, feeling alive and complete in my house created a home for me to thrive in and be well.
Through my dreams during a very painful and traumatic time in my life I was given a gift. I was given the gift of awareness of the need to create for myself space that honors my true essence. And now I am paying it forward by sharing this awareness with others.
Do yourself a favor – make sure you house is a home that gives you beauty and peace. It’s the best wellness plan out there.