Quiet Spaces Quiet the Mind Part II

About three years ago I buckled under the weight of some health issues.  I firmly believe these issues had manifested physically due to years of mental fatigue and stress from severe trauma-drama.  In fact, while going through some of the worst of the trauma-drama I even told myself that I knew one day all this was going to wreck havoc on my body.  It only made sense.  The trauma-drama had been like toxic fuel coursing through my body, carried throughout each part damaging it in ways I could not have begun to understand.

So, I decided that I needed to take ownership of being part of what created the mess.  If stress could create health issues by golly then, learning to de-stress could possibly change things for the better.

Meditation called to me.

Now here’s the funny thing about meditation.  I first learned of meditation in junior high school.  If I remember correctly, it was in Miss Hahn’s geography class.  We had someone come speak to our class about “T.M.” or Transcendental Meditation.  It sounded so intriguing and something I wanted to learn.  I went home after school and announced to my mother that I wanted to learn how to do this.  I still remember her look of horror- after all, she was a good Catholic!

With absolutely no preamble she said,

“No! That is hippie stuff!  It used to worry me that you would become a nun and now this? No!”

End of discussion.  Period.

(You see, I remember my grandmother, Nana telling me that my mother worried over how “religious” I was and she sure didn’t want me to become a nun.  I guess she wasn’t such a strict Catholic after all!)

Meditation, the best use of “Quiet Space”.

But, once in my early 50’s, I knew meditation was something I wanted to explore.  Thankfully, in my search I found Ranjit Deora with Charlotte Meditation.  After meeting with Ranjit, I called this time in my life a “before and after” time as meditation opened the door to an entire shift in me.  There was the “before meditating” and the “after meditating” division of my life and what a blessing.  Oddly enough, I sought to learn to meditate for my health.  What it brought to me was so much more.  It brought me full circle to the very essence of who I am ~ a loving, spirit filled child of God.  Thank you Ranjit for being at just the right place at just the right time for me.  I am truly forever grateful.  By the way, feel free to check him out on his website, www.charlottemeditation.com.  Tell him Jamie sent ya!

Now I meditate at least once a day.  It has become as important as taking a shower, brushing my teeth, eating, exercising and sleeping.  My body needs it and I have even created a private quiet space in my home specifically for the purpose of meditating.

I know lots of people that meditate as well.  For example, my daughter, Sammi meditates.  My brother-in-law, Dave Buergler practices what is called “conscious relaxation”.  This is a technique he first learned while his children Blaire and Carl were learning ways to prepare for dives and dive matches.  I know Carl uses “conscious relaxation” constantly as it helps him to visualize the entire process of a dive.  It is amazing that in doing this, his mind and his body work together to produce the best results of his athletic endeavor.  (By the way, today Carl is considered an elite junior diver.  This makes him one that college coaches watch and follow for the future.)

Consider learning to meditate.  It certainly takes practice but, the changes in your life that you will get from it are immeasurable.  In my view, meditation is the best way to achieve the benefits of being quiet.  And, as a Reiki Practitioner, I have learned first hand its’ benefits.

Silence is rejuvenating.

So, what does all this mean for you?  Do you make time for quiet?  Better still, while reading this are you understanding what quiet does for you?  Your children?  Your partner or spouse?  Your students, staff, friends?

Here are some interesting things to consider:

  • In many countries, certainly America- we are a nation(s) of chaos with many of us going, going, going- just like “The Ever-ready Bunny” on the commercial.  We are teaching our children to do the same thing.  This going, going, going greatly increases our stress levels.
  • Periods of “quiet time” give the mind and the body time to relax and center.
  • “Quiet time” is non-competitive.  Most everything else we do in life is.
  • “Quiet time” needs no special place- you can simply sit on a rug in your bedroom with the door closed; find a private spot in the yard; rock on the porch; swing in a hammock; walk in the park.
  • Breathing often changes during quiet moments making the mind more peaceful.  Blood pressure often drops as well.

Make a quiet space in your home.

Having said all this, creating quiet spaces in the home does help point you in the direction of observing silence.  Think about incorporating both “quiet time” and “quiet space” in your own homespace.  It can be as simple as a reading nook or a corner of your garden.  Or you can find a great place in the backyard for a hammock- my parents did and ask any of my nieces or nephews, they all remember being squished in together for quiet time while Papa served Tom Collins’s (boy, he could make the best) to us grown-ups at cocktail time around the pool.  And, my step-grandchildren Addison and Austin used to head straight for the backyard hammock whenever they came to visit while we lived in Charlotte.  Memories in the making!

The possibilities for creating quiet spaces are endless.  So, get started. And once you do or if you already do, feel free to share with other readers your ideas.  You never know, your idea of a unique “quiet space” might inspire others to make one, too.  Oh, and look for Sean Kalooky’s upcoming post on his Zen Garden.  You will love it!

One thought…

Silence is golden.

Sunset over rooftop

Photo credit: Sammi Blake

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Jamie Balzer

About Jamie Balzer

Jamie has worked in the field of interior decorating for over 10 years and has owned B&A Interiors, LLC for almost as long. Partnered with her daughter, Sammi Blake, Jamie has been honored to work in homes and businesses across the country. Knowledge and experience is but part of what she has to offer. As a young girl, Jamie intuitively understood that the placement of things, the color of things, and the arrangement of things evoke certain feelings. Working together with this knowledge, experience and intuition Jamie has answered the call to her life’s purpose- teaching the spiritual truth of what she believes- “Everything begins in the home”. As a branch of B&A Interiors, LLC, Living In Perfect Harmony emerged to teach her philosophy. Jamie believes, “if you live peacefully and beautifully at home, you are well, your family is well and that helps to make the world a better place”. Jamie's most passionate role is as a mother and grandmother. Jamie currently lives and works in the Chicago area but also continues her business in Charlotte, NC as both a decorator and a homespace coach. She is certified in Reiki Therapy which she believes broadens her success as a homespace coach. Jamie is available for private consultations, lectures and seminars.

8 thoughts on “Quiet Spaces Quiet the Mind Part II

  1. Lovely article. Your experience in field of spirituality and home decor will enhance life of many people at home and work. Congratulation and good luck.

    kind regards

    • Thank you so much Ranjit for your kind words. I absolutely know it to be true that our homes give us what we need to be the best we can be- for ourselves, our families and the larger community of humanity. I hope my words inspire others to understand this.

  2. Jamie it was great having you with us on daddy/papa’s b-day. And thank you Jimmy for making us Tom Collins cocktails at the lake in honor of daddy/papa. I know he was smiling down on us.

    • The best part about Daddy serving Tom Collins’ was he passed on the tradition to Jimmy, Don, Craig and Tommy. Even Jeff Clark did the honors at times. Now, we can all remember him on his birthday and all through the hot summer days with one at cocktail time wherever we are!

  3. I really enjoyed this one….I have quiet time most of the day, but before bed God and myself have quiet time together. Nothing takes its place and I plan my evenings around it even if I have to do it early. It is amazing how much better you feel….mine still has tears in it, but that is okay too. I love the articles and hope to see you soon. Love ya…Susie

    • Susie, I thought of you yesterday morning after the article was published. I wondered what you would take from it. I guess I know you so well that your comments were exactly what I expected. I thought to myself yesterday that while reading it, you would be saying to yourself,”I have quiet all the time with Al gone”. It is true but, thankfully you have parts of who and what he was all around you. And, your home fills almost daily with your darling grandkids. Quiet in your home does quiet your soul though, doesn’t it? It is in the quiet that you draw closer to God, Al and your true essence. I am so glad you see this!

  4. Thanks Jamie for reminding us! Even Jesus went to a quiet place. It wasn’t about aesthetics but communing with God. He said in John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful.” You see, there IS a counterfeit peace. I like to meditate on what Saint Paul said in Phil. 4:12, “I know how to get along with humble means, and I know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Carl is practicing Proverbs 23:7 in that “as he thinks within himself, so he is.” If your business is small, visualize it bigger. If you’re fat, see yourself looking thinner. If you are sick, see yourself well…because you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!

    • Lisa, thanks for your beautiful words. Quiet spaces make for a place to meditate, reflect and pray. Meditation, reflection and prayer then lead to peace. Peace for ourselves and peace for others is what we should all strive for. I believe it begins in the home~ and creating quiet spaces within your home are a good start!

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