As an Interior Decorator, I have been privy to many homes and offices. I love what I do for many reasons. An obvious reason is that I love to create beauty. I often say I have the best job in the world as I am always creating what I call new dollhouses. But, another reason is that I love anything to do with psychology and absolutely, positively, undeniably I believe that a person’s most private space is a window to their psyche. So, working in a client’s most private space gives me a glimpse into who they are. It is utterly fascinating.
What I have discovered through the years is that often the homes I have worked in mirror my life and what I am experiencing at that given time. In other words, they seem to become an outward manifestation of my inner self. I know this might sound strange to some of you reading this but, I believe it to be true. I believe that everything on the physical/material plane is a manifestation of the inner workings of our lives and becomes symbolic of what is going on both on a spiritual and emotional level.
Living in clutter
No wonder for a few years I seemed to be drawn to homes that personified the word “cluttered”. My life at the time was one great BIG cluttered mess due to some ridiculous “trauma-drama”. Seriously.
A few homes I began to work in had to go through months of third party “decluttering” before we could even begin the project I designed. It was as if these homes outwardly got decluttered while I set about inwardly decluttering my own life. I call this a direct mirror I went looking for to reflect my inner self and the struggles I was dealing with at the time.
I am happy to report that the work I did on my “inner” home was successful. It has taken way too much Blood, Sweat and Tears but hallelujah, I am clutter free! (Rediscovering Nature was my tonic as I write in my post, Let Nature Restoreth Your Soul (And Your Home).)
Unfortunately, I cannot say the same for the homes I worked in. Once my projects were completed, the owners went back to their old habits and the clutter returned. I believe the reason is simple – clutter can be an indication of underlying issues. It’s that “mirror” thing again – your exterior space mirrors your inner space.
Clutter in your space really does clutter your mind. Or more importantly, clutter in your mind clutters your space.
Where there is clutter, there is work to be done for sure – both figuratively and literally.
Reasons for clutter
I think the reasons why people have clutter in their homes are usually for one of the following:
- Lack of proper storage space
- Life changes such as a move, a new baby or anything that throws life out of whack
- Poor time/life management skills
- Psychological issues such as depression, family dysfunction, low self-esteem, poor personal boundaries and even attention deficit disorder
I call the first three of these reasons “temporary clutter”. In other words, all three are easy to fix with a little effort and determination. Still, clutter from any of these sources is clutter and it can be unsettling to your mind. My recommendation to you if your homespace is cluttered for any of these reasons is to find simple solutions for them. Your stress will decrease and your feel good vibes will increase! I guarantee it.
Now, the fourth reason – that’s a tough one. It takes a lot of work to rid your homespace of clutter if there are psychological components to it. Mind you, I am not talking about the extreme of hoarding here. That’s a whole other ball of wax. I am talking about routine clutter that detracts and distracts from your sanctuary – the place you call HOME.
Here is a list of some of the spaces in your home where clutter accumulates and what the clutter there might symbolize:
Kitchen – Difficulty with emotional nourishment for yourself or others
Main Living Space – Feelings of isolation
Hallways – Obstacles in your life
Bedroom – Distancing from partner and/or intimacy with others
Bathroom – Low self-esteem
Closets – Hidden Issues
Basement – Ignored Issues
Garage – Confused about direction in your life
Exterior and yard – Low self-worth and a sense of giving up
Anyone find the symbolism of clutter in these spaces thought provoking? I certainly do. I think every homespace is worthy of reflecting the best of those that dwell within it. And, this means that if spaces within your home suffer from clutter, look inside (both your inner self and your home) and get to work. Honor yourself. You are worth it. Those that live with you are worth it. Your homespace is worth it.
Your home is your sanctuary
Yep, your home is your sanctuary.
It is where you deserve to have peace and comfort away from the outside world. It is meant to be your safe haven and should calm your mind.
Clutter in your space clutters your mind. Clutter in your mind clutters your space.
Free every space that is part of you and your HOME from the mess that clutter creates.
HOME is also where the heart is. Fill your heart with love and your home(s) will reflect it – both your inner home and the one you use for shelter from the outside world. Now, that’s another thing I can guarantee!
To loving life…